In the Twitter Sleepover Showdown, I’m Team Hard Nope ... Hop on Board, Fellow Parents

Every so often, debates will start on Twitter about how much freedom should be afforded today's youth. Generally, I fall on the side of allowing freedom until a young person has show they can't handle that responsibility. It's a constant give and take based on their behavior and maturity. For example, most parents with teens require Life360 on their vehicles. I do not require that of my children. I would if they gave me a reason to not trust them, but thankfully, they have not. I make one exception. I no longer allow sleep overs.

Parents are anti sleepover, anti playing down the street out of eye sight, anti running errands on their own because they’re terrified of their kids becoming a victim to a predator. Solution? Unrestricted screentime on the internet where they’re “safe in their own room”…
— Alex Clark (@yoalexrapz) March 28, 2025

Sleepovers do not belong in this category. My kids can do all sorts of things, but sleepovers are a hard no. Nothing good ever happens at sleepovers. https://t.co/RT3CP128VG
— Emily Zanotti 🦝 (@emzanotti) March 29, 2025

I used to be one of those parents who didn’t have a firm stance on sleepovers. My kids often stayed with my parents and loved it. My son never wanted to sleep anywhere but home, so it wasn’t an issue for him. My stepdaughters, who visited us on weekends, cherished that time with us, so their friends usually slept over at our place instead. It wasn’t until my youngest daughter—the first of my kids to ask to sleep at other people’s homes—that I had to really think about it. She’s my most independent child, a social butterfly, and I’d let her go sometimes. Early on, it was with a family we knew well from church and school. They lived in a multi-generational household like we did, shared our values, and I trusted them completely.

As she made new friends, though, she’d ask to sleep over at their houses, and I usually said no. The last time she went was for a group slumber party. I hesitated—the home was 45 minutes away, and while our kids all attended the same small private Christian school and played sports together, I didn’t know the hosting parents well. Still, it was six girls, and I knew the other parents, who seemed fine with it. I convinced myself I was just being overprotective, that if they trusted this family, it must be okay.

I won’t detail everything that happened that night, but the parents left the girls—12- and 13-year-olds—alone for five hours to attend an adult party. They were unsupervised until the early morning. I babysat at 13 myself, so I don’t mind that age being on their own briefly. But a group of them together? That’s when bad ideas take root. Things went terribly wrong. I ended up pulling my daughter from her school, some of the other girls needed years of therapy, and just yesterday—six years later—I spoke with another mom who believes her daughter is still haunted by that night, making poor choices because of it. My daughter may never fully recover either. This was six years ago, yet the fallout from that night and the days that followed still affects these young women. It’s not worth it.

Interesting that so many people are visibly upset that some parents don't allow others to have unfettered overnight access to their kids. My friend, who's parents were 'strong Catholics', showed me a stack of hard-core porn mags in their basement one night. I was 9. This was 40+…
— Jenny (@JennyDH12) March 29, 2025

You don’t know how others live behind closed doors. It’s not a risk worth taking. Do plenty of young people enjoy sleepovers with no harm done? Sure, of course. But there are horror stories too—too many—and why chance it?

It is really weird. Like, I’ll reserve the right to amend my blanket prohibition if I think it might be different in some way (or figure out a way that allows them to participate without spending the night), but, like…it was a huge opportunity for bullying and access to adult…
— Emily Zanotti 🦝 (@emzanotti) March 29, 2025

After that night, I became the mom who happily hosted sleepovers but wouldn’t let my daughter sleep elsewhere. She’s 19 now, in college, and still living at home. Even as a high school senior last year—technically an adult—I held firm: no sleepovers. She could stay late, enjoy the fun, and then come home to sleep. I urge parents to think hard about this. Kids today have instant access to explicit content, constant video recording, and the ability to spread humiliating material to huge audiences with ease. It’s just not worth the risk.

In the Twitter Sleepover Showdown, I’m Team Hard Nope ... Hop on Board, Fellow Parents

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